1. Good lovemaking starts outside the bedroom. If you have had time to plan a session then make the effort to have a bath and a shave, put some makeup on, and to pick some sexy underwear out. It sounds obvious but a man is mainly turned on by visual stimulus (whilst women are more turned on by emotions and words). Its important not to be self conscious about your body, let your man have a good look at you, he will love it!
2. Let him bring out his primal side. Every man loves to show his animalistic element and take charge once in a while. Give him a challenge by kissing him then pulling back with a come hither look to make him follow after you. Have him hold you up against a wall with your legs wrapped round his torso. He will have to hold you up and he'll love how it puts him in the alpha male role.
3. Go the other way and make him play the submissive role. Tie his hands to the bed rail and totally take control of the situation. He'll love that he wont have to lift a finger and can just watch you work your magic. Take it a step further and blindfold him too, it'll make him feel more vulnerable and trusting of you. Drive him crazy by not knowing where your next stroke, kiss or lick will go. Incorporate new sensations like an ice cube dripping over his torso, your hot breath on his skin, or the feel of your hair on his member.
4. Find his G spot. Men have a similar sensitive spot to a woman's G spot and if you can find it you can blow his mind, especially if combined with manual or oral stimulation on his member. Essentially it's the walnut sized prostate gland, which you can stimulate by placing two fingers on the skin between his testicles and anus and gently massaging. There is also a more direct way to stimulate this hidden hot spot, which is to insert a finger up his anus and using a beckoning motion to produce intense pleasure. It may take a bit of practice to find the precise spot but leave it up to your man to tell you when you hit it. Make sure you use lube to make it more comfortable for your man. Not all men will be into this so make sure you check or just explore that area carefully and watch for reactions before you dive in. Although remember that just because you've found his G spot don't head straight for it every time and neglect his other sensitive areas such as the nipples, ear lobes, and neck. Its well known that men aren't as ken on foreplay as women but a little torture can build a man's anticipation, so when you do get to the main zones he'll be all riled up!
5. Combine your two favourite things: chocolate and sex! Buy some chocolate sauce or paint and wipe a bit on your man's hand then cheekily lick it off. Strip and hand him the bottle and let him cover you in chocolate goo and have him lick it all off. You'll soon both be fully satisfied! Experiment with other foods like whipped cream, honey, or an ice-lolly.
6. Massage his ego. Men have insecurities about their body and performance just the same as women. Make sure you tell him how much he turns you on, and if he's doing something you really like make sure its known to him! Similarly if he's doing something your not enjoying don't shoot him down, just discreetly suggest another position or to return to something he did well earlier. If your feeling particularly brave you can give him an education and a peep show by pleasuring yourself in front of him. Not only will he love this private viewing but he will be able to learn what really turns you on.
7. Spice things up by exploring different places to make love. Challenge yourselves to have sex in each room of your house or in a different place each day for a fortnight. Tables, chairs and worktops can all be used in different ways or how about a steamy shower? If you're brave surprise him with a quickie in a lift or in the backseat of your car. You could also try alfresco whilst sleeping under the stars in a sleeping bag.
8. Sex games can be a fun way of experimenting. Take it in turns to throw a couple of dice with one set of numbers relating to a body part e.g. nipple, neck, genital etc, and the other set relating to an action e.g. lick, kiss, suck etc, and carry out the action on the body part according to the dice. Another fun night in would be to watch a movie or program that has a lot of sex in it like 'sex and the city' (if your man can stand it!) or a blue movie and then reenact the positions. You can also find loads of sex games in sex shops, which can be a real novelty. You can also find kinky costumes, which could bring out some weird and wonderful fantasies!
9. Try out some different or more adventurous positions. Certain positions will make your mans member more likely to hit your g-spot. Try doggy style but arch or dip your back like a cat, or you on top but lean backwards so your hair tickles his legs, or even in the '77' position so you're spooning with him entering you from behind which can be really intense. Try doing a different position each night for a fortnight, there are so many out there you will be spoilt for choice.
10. An old failsafe in the bedroom are sex toys. Invest in a good vibrator or cock ring and have fun experimenting with it together. If you find it hard to climax during regular sex get yourself a small bullet vibrator and slip it on your clitoris for an extra buzz. Your man can also have fun teasing you with it! Other things to have fun with are different types of condoms, which can have different textures and lubes to add different sensations. Ones with heat sensation lube can be particularly pleasurable, or if he has problem holding on to his orgasm there are ones with a numbing lube to help him last longer. The world is your oyster with different things coming out all the time, so experiment and have fun!
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